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		<title>Letter to my daughter: disappointments</title>
		<link>http://jaywigley.com/2012/05/letter-to-my-daughter-disappointments/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 10 May 2012 12:14:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jay Wigley</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[You will be disappointed many times in your life. I&#8217;m sure I have disappointed you and your mother has disappointed you and others too. We can&#8217;t help it. It&#8217;s not because we aren&#8217;t trying. It is because we are not able to avoid disappointing you sometimes. You disappoint yourself sometimes, don&#8217;t you? Is it because [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You will be disappointed many times in your life. I&#8217;m sure I have disappointed you and your mother has disappointed you and others too. We can&#8217;t help it. It&#8217;s not because we aren&#8217;t trying. It is because we are not able to avoid disappointing you sometimes.</p>
<p>You disappoint yourself sometimes, don&#8217;t you? Is it because you are not trying? No, of course not. Trying leads to disappointment, sometimes. We don&#8217;t know how always to avoid disappointing you. But we keep trying. You have to keep trying not to disappoint yourself too.</p>
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		<title>Life Lesson: What you should know about other people</title>
		<link>http://jaywigley.com/2012/05/life-lesson-what-you-should-know-about-other-people/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 09 May 2012 13:25:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jay Wigley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Life Lessons]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[This is a post in an on-going series written for the aspiring, those not settling for what life delivers easily.      Much of adult life will be consumed with other people. They will ask you to do things for them. They will expect you to do things for them. They will expect you to [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p id="_mcePaste"><em>This is a post in an on-going series written for the aspiring, those not settling for what life delivers easily.</em></p>
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<div>     Much of adult life will be consumed with other people. They will ask you to do things for them. They will expect you to do things for them. They will expect you to behave in certain ways. Remember one thing about other people: their expectations should be considered but should never be considered as unbreakable rules.</div>
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<div id="_mcePaste">     If you work hard at a sport, you likely have a coach. The coach&#8217;s job is to get you to do the sport better, to the best of your ability. So he demands that you work hard. He requires you to try as hard as you can every day. He thinks he knows what you can do. He thinks he knows what you might be able to do if you work hard. He also thinks he knows what you will never be able to do.</div>
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<div id="_mcePaste">     He is not always right. He is not always sure what to expect. How could he? Only you know what you can demand of yourself <span style="text-decoration: underline;">today</span>. Forget tomorrow. Today is hard enough. Focus on getting the most out of yourself today. That will keep you plenty busy until tomorrow. And it will make tomorrow a lot easier, too.</div>
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<div>     There are other people who will be good for you to hang around with. Sometimes you will be able to tell who those people are. And sometimes there will be other people that might be good for you somedays and not as good for you on other days. You have to remember to think about this. No one else can tell you for sure who is who on any given day.</div>
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<div id="_mcePaste">     But also remember that other people are thinking that way about you. Other people can be better off for having you be their friend today. Or not. It depends a lot on what choices you make today. On what you require of yourself today. If you set out to be a good friend to someone else, I&#8217;ll bet that person will be better off for having you in her life today.</div>
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<div id="_mcePaste">     But if you don&#8217;t pay attention to other people at least some of your day, you&#8217;ll not be much use to anyone, not even yourself. Because your self will be less than it was the day before. That&#8217;s what happens when you stay too isolated&#8211;you starve yourself emotionally. You need to be around other people who give you the chance to help them, and who can help you when you need them.</div>
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<div id="_mcePaste">     There are always going to be people to tell you what to do and where to do it and who to do it with. And you will always want to filter all that advice. One of the worst things you can do to yourself is just to do whatever other people tell you to do. Other people don&#8217;t know what you need as well as you do yourself&#8211;they cannot know. It&#8217;s not because they don&#8217;t care&#8211;some of them do care and some of them care most about themselves&#8211;but it is because they are not you.</div>
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		<title>Life lesson: forget tomorrow. Today is enough.</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 09 May 2012 13:23:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jay Wigley</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This is a post in an on-going series written for the aspiring, those not settling for what life delivers easily. If you work hard at a sport, you likely have a coach. The coach&#8217;s job is to get you to do the sport better, to the best of your ability. So he demands that you [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div id="_mcePaste"><em>This is a post in an on-going series written for the aspiring, those not settling for what life delivers easily.</em></div>
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<div>If you work hard at a sport, you likely have a coach. The coach&#8217;s job is to get you to do the sport better, to the best of your ability. So he demands that you work hard. He requires you to try as hard as you can every day. He thinks he knows what you can do. He thinks he knows what you might be able to do if you work hard. He also thinks he knows what you will never be able to do.</div>
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<div id="_mcePaste">He is not always right. He is not always sure what to expect. How could he? Only you know what you can demand of yourself <span style="text-decoration: underline;">today</span>. Forget tomorrow. Today is hard enough. Focus on getting the most out of yourself today. That will keep you plenty busy until tomorrow. And it will make tomorrow a lot easier, too.</div>
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		<title>These things don&#8217;t count as writing.</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Apr 2011 13:31:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jay Wigley</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Writers: You already know you should be writing every day. These things don&#8217;t count as writing: Writing marketing copy for your last book Reading book reviews Pruning your wish list at Amazon.com Commenting on blogs about books and/or writing Researching source material for your new book Editing what you wrote yesterday Reading books about how [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Writers: You already know you should be writing every day. These things don&#8217;t count as writing:<br />
Writing marketing copy for your last book<br />
Reading book reviews<br />
Pruning your wish list at Amazon.com<br />
Commenting on blogs about books and/or writing<br />
Researching source material for your new book<br />
Editing what you wrote yesterday<br />
Reading books about how to write<br />
Outlining the plot of the book you want to write<br />
Reading blog posts about writing<br />
Reading great literature<br />
Reading trash literature<br />
Reading biographies of writers you admire<br />
Talking with your editor<br />
Networking with other writers about writing<br />
Shopping for or buying a new journal<br />
Shopping for or buying a new pen<br />
Reading reviewing of journals<br />
Reading reviews of pens<br />
Searching ebay for new journals or pens<br />
Looking for a quiet space where you might write one day<br />
Reading reviews of local coffee shops where you might write one day<br />
Trying out distraction-free writing software<br />
Adding writing to your to-do list<br />
Adding a writing project to your GTD outline<br />
Meditating on how it will feel when you actually do some writing<br />
Discussing how you never write but really really want to with your friend/spouse/therapist<br />
Researching a hack that will make you write everyday even when you don&#8217;t feel like it<br />
Reading this blog post</p>
<p>What counts as writing: moving your hand across the paper or keyboard and letting words out</p>
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		<title>Copy Other Writers. Start with Alice Munro.</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 12 Jan 2011 18:08:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jay Wigley</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A writer friend confessed that she had begun to think that &#8220;raw talent is the main determining factor of how good a writer you can be, and not just practice and time.&#8221; No way. Here&#8217;s why that idea is wrong, and how you can prove it to yourself. Getting better takes practice and time. But [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A writer friend confessed that she had begun to think that &#8220;raw talent is the main determining factor of how good a writer you can be, and not just practice and time.&#8221;</p>
<p>No way. Here&#8217;s why that idea is wrong, and how you can prove it to yourself.</p>
<p>Getting better takes practice and time. But the only writers that really practice with the right mind&#8211;one that is open for change&#8211;can profit from the time and practice. I mean, I could practice for 50 years and never be Shakespeare, but I would be 50 times better than without the practice.</p>
<p>Prove this to yourself by trying to imitate <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Hateship-Friendship-Courtship-Loveship-Marriage/dp/0375727434/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;s=books&amp;qid=1294855215&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank">Alice Munro</a>. She is all short stories. She can do more in a paragraph than most writers do with a whole book. Seriously. She can communicate an entire personality and make you feel like you know everyone in the story before she&#8217;s written two full pages. It is amazing. And while plenty of good writers do that well, Alice Munro is a master of it.</p>
<p>Her stories keep everything moving right along but the reader is learning so much about the characters that make them<br />
real at the same time. In these days of short, to-the-point writing&#8211;<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Absalom-Corrected-Text-Modern-Library/dp/0679600728/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1294855405&amp;sr=1-1" target="_blank">Faulkner</a> would never be published today&#8211;it is a key skill, essential to getting your fiction (and non-fiction as well) the attention it deserves, both from traditional publishers and readers. Your writing will feel more fresh and current if it steps with the times, if it feels like it was written today or tomorrow instead of ten or a hundred years ago.</p>
<p>So if you want to get better, try to imitate Alice Munro. And watch how time spent copying her style pays off by improving your own work.</p>
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		<title>Watch what your characters do and write it down.</title>
		<link>http://jaywigley.com/2010/08/watch-what-your-characters-do-and-write-it-down/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 31 Aug 2010 20:21:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jay Wigley</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[How well do you know your characters? Whether you are working on fiction or fact, you can&#8217;t write well what you don&#8217;t know well. If you don&#8217;t understand what your characters are doing, who they are, where they came from, do you think your readers will? I don&#8217;t expect you to know what everything means [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>How well do you know your characters? Whether you are working on fiction or fact, you can&#8217;t write well what you don&#8217;t know well. If you don&#8217;t understand what your characters are doing, who they are, where they came from, do you think your readers will?</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t expect you to know what everything means in some sense of cosmic significance. You don&#8217;t have to be a third person narrator God. But you do&#8211;at the very least&#8211;have to see what is happening. If there are tears in the corner of her eye, just there, write about them. Who cares if the reader doesn&#8217;t need to know that once the story is finished? That&#8217;s why God made editors, and why He gave you time for cutting and rewriting. If it&#8217;s unnecessary later, it&#8217;s gone.</p>
<p>But if it&#8217;s not, if it is really the little glimpse of something coming only later, after some big reveal or expected twist or unexpected turn of phrase, then congratulations! You just became the master of foreshadowing. And a more interesting writer.</p>
<p>But that doesn&#8217;t happen if you don&#8217;t know your characters. Knowing them means watching them. Looking through their scrapbooks. Reading the labels in his shirts. Studying how she applies her make-up. And then writing it down. Significance&#8211;and vital, living writing&#8211;comes from this.</p>
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		<title>Find your voice. No one else has it.</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 29 Aug 2010 13:16:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jay Wigley</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It would be easier to write if you focused on how your voice is unique to you. It&#8217;s a cliche, I know. But it&#8217;s a cliche because it is true. Lies don&#8217;t become cliches. Your voice has been crafted by every experience you&#8217;ve ever had&#8211;all those repressed moments of disappointment, every experience that lifted your [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It would be easier to write if you focused on how your voice is unique to you. It&#8217;s a cliche, I know. But it&#8217;s a cliche because it is true. Lies don&#8217;t become cliches.</p>
<p>Your voice has been crafted by every experience you&#8217;ve ever had&#8211;all those repressed moments of disappointment, every experience that lifted your heart into your throat, all the pain that squashed your joy&#8211;everything that is yours is also no one else&#8217;s. No one could have had, and no one else has had, your life.</p>
<p>Write as only you can. If you write like others, you will be ignored, and rightfully so. I can pick up hundreds of books in any bookstore where authors are trying to write like someone else.</p>
<p>Can&#8217;t you find your voice? Here&#8217;s an exercise I discovered years ago: imagine you have one chance to speak to a large crowd gathered to meet you. One sentence is all you&#8217;ve got. After that sentence, the crowd will decide to stay for one more sentence, or to leave. Over and over again.</p>
<p>If you waste the chance trying to sound like someone else, they&#8217;ll find someone else. But sound like yourself, put effort into the opportunity to have their attention focused just on you, and you&#8217;ll keep them.</p>
<p>Now go write.</p>
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		<title>Surpass those writers who are more popular than you</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Aug 2010 16:01:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jay Wigley</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Faulkner thought that Hemingway was so popular (compared to him, at the time they were both alive) because Hemingway set the bar so low for his own work. Faulkner&#8217;s favorite of his own writing was where he aimed the highest, no matter how far he fell short. He called them his most splendid failures. Your [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Faulkner thought that Hemingway was so popular (compared to him, at the time they were both alive) because Hemingway set the bar so low for his own work. Faulkner&#8217;s favorite of his own writing was where he aimed the highest, no matter how far he fell short. He called them his most splendid failures.</p>
<p>Your competition aims for mass appeal and gets it. But you should aim for a more discerning audience, and must intend to, because you want to write for a smarter, more selective audience. Let your competing writers get away with more because his audience has a pallet only for what is commonly provided. Soar above what is common.</p>
<p>And it is moments like this where literary trivia can be useful, even buoyant, that make my day worthwhile.</p>
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		<title>Better ideas come from editors, but not exactly in the way you&#8217;d think.</title>
		<link>http://jaywigley.com/2010/07/better-ideas-come-from-editors-but-not-exactly-in-the-way-youd-think/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Jul 2010 00:33:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jay Wigley</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[editors]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[The written word is the optimal medium for your ideas. And your ideas are what set you apart from everyone else. Sometimes when you write about your ideas, the words get in the way. When the words you use distract the reader, they are not letting your ideas flow. That is a problem. That is [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The written word is the optimal medium for your ideas. And your ideas are what set you apart from everyone else.</p>
<p>Sometimes when you write about your ideas, the words get in the way. When the words you use distract the reader, they are not letting your ideas flow. That is a problem. That is a problem that an editor can help with.</p>
<p>A good editor can help you get the words down on the page. For many of my <a href="http://jaywigley.com/about/portfolio/" target="_blank">clients</a>, knowing that I am there to help filter out the words that aren’t working is freeing knowledge. A good editor is like a safety harness–you take more chances knowing that missteps will not kill you. And when you take more chances in writing down your ideas, your ideas get better.</p>
<p>And your writing gets better. Better writing attracts the best readers, who give you great comments, improving your ideas even more.</p>
<p>So if you want to have better ideas, hire an editor. It&#8217;s not an intuitive relationship to most people, but once you see the connections, it&#8217;s hard to refute.</p>
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		<title>Hope grows in Despair&#8217;s backyard.</title>
		<link>http://jaywigley.com/2010/06/hope-grows-in-despairs-backyard/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Jun 2010 17:01:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jay Wigley</dc:creator>
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